Words can build up or they can tear down. Words that tear down can be internalized and may falsely define who another person is. Words that build up may inspire another person to greatness. Discouraging words also can alienate and result in communication breakdown and lack of trust.
Encouragement goes straight to the heart, however.
Knowing what a big difference encouragement has made in your own life, how can you be an encouragement to those in your family? Here are some tips:
- Be aware of what encourages you and do the same for others.
- Write your spouse or child a note with words of encouragement.
- Always be specific when you offer praise: “You did a great job at _____.” “I really appreciate that you _____.”
- When you see positive changes in the other person’s life, affirm that person: “You really seem to have a great attitude about _____.”
- If encouraging thoughts come to mind, share them with your family.
- We all make mistakes, so look beyond fault. It may just be an opportunity for you to teach that there is much learning to be gained through failure.
- Remember that most people may not reach their potential without someone believing in them and taking the time to tell them so.
Terry M. Dickson, MD, ACG, CPCC, is the founder and director of The Behavioral Medicine Clinic of NW Michigan that has served and supported children, adolescents, and adults with ADHD for over eleven years. He has been a principal study investigator for several clinical ADHD medication trials. A Certified Professional Co-Active Coach, he is a graduate of the ADD Coach Academy and the Coaches Training Institute. Diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, Dr. Dickson speaks regularly on ADHD and has been interviewed locally and nationally on radio, television, and CHADD’s Ask the Expert online. Dr. Dickson and his wife of 32 years have two teenage children, both of whom have ADHD.